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B2W OpEd - "Retire? Sure. But Don't Abdicate Responsibility for the Future." - by Elane V. Scott and Rick Stephens

B2W OpEd - "Retire? Sure. But Don't Abdicate Responsibility for the Future." - by Elane V. Scott and Rick Stephens

For decades, the retirement of the baby boom generation has been a looming economic threat. Now, it’s no longer looming — it’s here. Every month, more than a quarter-million Americans turn 65. That’s a trend with profound economic consequences. Simply put, retirees don’t contribute as much to the economy as workers do. They don’t produce anything, at least directly. They don’t spend as much on average. And they’re much more likely to depend on others — the government or their own children, most often — than to support themselves. – (What Baby Boomers’ Retirement Means For the U.S. Economy, FiveThirtyEight.com, May 7, 2014)

Boomers? Is that really what you want your legacy to be? Dependent and Unproductive? Yes, you've been working hard for years...so, OK, take a year or two off...but here's a secret: the generation you spawned still needs you. They need to know what you learned from the choices you made, and how to do better.

The topic of mentorship is one we discuss often around the Birth2Work conference table. Successful mentoring encompasses a sharing of hard advice (i.e., "take this class", "talk to this person", "seek this job"), but it also includes discussions on broad perspectives that hopefully will open up the mentee's sense of possibilities for the rest of their life. Whether a student trying to figure out the peculiarities of a field of study, or a professional attempting to forge new opportunities in their field, everyone can use some structure, metrics, and inspiration by someone else who's been there and done that.

In our short recent survey, "Is Learning From the Past a Thing of the Past?", we asked readers to walk through a series of questions that framed scenarios for passing down how-to from one generation to the next in each of the six economic sectors of our society: business, government, health, media, education, and the community/non-profit sector.

The results of the survey show that family doctors, grandparents, cooperative government leaders, and those who raised families and succeeded professionally in a pre-digital world all received resounding support from our readers in terms of sharing their experiences and offering strategic guidance to the next generations.

The survey questions and responses are posted here: Survey Results»

It's not too late to add your voice to survey! Do so here: Engage Now»

Everything old is not bad and everything new is not good. A "duh!" statement, right? Seeing it in writing it just makes sense. So why do we (and that's "we Americans" in this point) favor the young and their new gadgets with our time, attention, and financial resources?

There's a palpable confusion of what the relationship between older and younger folks today is supposed to look like, personally and professionally. While our obsession with what's new sometimes boosts our economy, it's rare for the achievements and values of the past to be as celebrated as what's materially new. Kitschy details of previous generations are excised from their period context and glorified for a few moments (think LP records, or the fashion of "Mad Men", or classic cars), but there is rarely deeper probing into meaning or substance.

Anecdotally, how many times have you heard grandparents proudly extol the technical wizardry of their grandkids? "Johnny knows how to use the iPhone!" or "Suzy can play computer games and send email!" It's natural, of course, for grandparents to want to be proud of their grandkids, but is swiping a finger across a light screen something to shout about? Maybe because the digital engagement is new to them, too, they feel pride that the child is capable in ways they themselves don't feel confident? This fast pace of change (especially with regard to technology) tends to make older people feel out of synch with the values of today. But we at Birth2Work find this to be a devastating loss of opportunity for mentorship. Real life and tech experiences are both important.

Because of our hunger for the "new", we, as a culture, tend to let go of the fundamental anchoring of human experience in our lives. Grandparents might try teaching and practicing with their grandkids how to shake hands and look someone in the eye when saying "please" and "thank you"; basic interpersonal skills that seem forgotten too often today. How many times have you witnessed someone place an order with a barista without so much as a glance up from their smart phone? Is that a shift in cultural values we are supposed to accept as the new normal?

A mentor - someone who has successfully navigated an experience, career, or relationship - can offer a mentee more than bullet point strategic advice. The mentor can offer institutional memory, guidance and accountability for the underpinning values of that experience, career, or relationship. For all the so-called facts and data that can be found utilizing a plastic piece of technology, those devices fail us when we need a hug, to share some tears of joy or sorrow with, or just a smile.

The Boomers must not walk away from Gens X, Y, and Z with a sense of having already put in their time or, worse, feeling too old or uncool to be of value. To the contrary, now is the time Boomers must engage the generations around them: have creative Lego building parties with grandkids, and mentor up-and-comers in the humanity inherent in their professional fields. Otherwise, Boomers run the risk of X,Y, and Z relying too much on the illusion that purchased technological services and devices provide "social engagement". If that happens, who will be there to take care of the Boomers when they need a little face-to-face human empathy...something that can't be bought.


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